If you are like us, your social media feeds are going to start, or have already started flooding with photos of friends and family getting engaged. Some of the proposals are so sweet and romantic and you might be getting even more nervous about popping the question and making it perfect. Don’t be! With these 10 tips on how to plan the perfect proposal, you won’t feel like you’re drowning in a sea of perfect proposals, you will be ahead of the game!
- Have all your ducks in a row.
If you are planning on asking your soon to be fiance’s mom, dad, or a family member if it’s okay to propose, make sure that you plan plenty of time to do so. Nerves are a real thing even if you are pretty confident of the answer, so it’s nice to get that done in a timely fashion. Oh, and don’t forget to get the ring! If you have to order it, be sure to leave plenty of time in between it’s delivery day and the proposal to account for any delays. Just in case!
This may sound silly, but it’s very necessary and will help you with the rest of it. You can either ask for help from people who know your partner really well, or you can think about this on your own. Here are a list of questions you may want to consider when thinking about what the perfect proposal looks like to you and your significant other:
Is he/she a private person or would want to invite everyone?
Is he/she pretty traditional, or dance to the beat or his/her own drums?
Has he or she said anything to allude to what he/she imagines as the perfect proposal?
What are some of our favorite places or most significant places in our relationship?
Does he/she want the proposal documented somehow by photo or video?
- Pick the time.
Now that you have a general idea of some of the details, it’s now time to choose the location and time. This time of year is perfect to propose because it gives you and your future spouse time to talk with family about wedding dates that would work best for everyone. It also allows you to celebrate with all the important people in your lives!
- Pick the place.
The location may be the place that you went on your first date or may be somewhere that you both love to go or has family significance. We also think somewhere quiet and beautiful and maybe a new place to create new memories for your new family unit is a sweet idea. We may be a little biased, but Spruce Mountain Ranch is a gorgeous, quiet, and private place and our team LOVES hosting proposals and helping with the planning.
- Think about what you want to say.
You may be a person who wants to write down something sweet and plan it out word for word, or you may go with a simple and sweet, “I love you so much, will you marry me?” Either way, you’ll want to have at least a general idea of what you want to say and whether you are going to get down on one knee or not. If in doubt about getting down on one kneea or not, we say go for it!
- Tell the people involved by necessity, but don’t tell everyone.
Part of the fun after getting engaged is being able to tell people together and you don’t want to leave your future fiance out of all the fun!
- Come up with your story.
If you’ve been dating for a long time or if he/she suspects, the simpler the excuse the better. Plan a date like you normally would or enlist some help for a double date and have them “cancel” at the last minute or if you are in the beautiful mountains, take a hike if that’s something you would normally do. The simpler the “lie” or excuse or story, the easier it is to tell and the easier it is to keep the secret!
- Expect it to NOT go perfectly to plan.
This is okay. It’s something that will make your story even more unique. Maybe traffic is heavy and you are late for dinner or it’s snowing and you have to get down on one knee in the wet grass, whatever it is that may seem like a huge inconvenience will only make it more memorable.
- Execute the plan.
Be sure you’ve got the ring, all the players are in place (ie. photographer, videographer, location staff, etc), and that you take a deep breath! Act normally. Just think about this as another date with the person that you love, don’t overthink it. Also, we would suggest not waiting until the last minute of the date to propose. The longer you wait, the more nervous you will be and you will most likely begin to act oddly. Relax, you’ve got this!
You’ve popped the question and the “Yes!” was said, now you can celebrate. Maybe that means just the two of you or it means celebrating with family or friends. Whatever the case may be. You are getting married!! Congratulations!
Well there you have it! Our 10 tips on how to plan the perfect proposal. Don’t stress out and don’t rush it. This is such a special event in your life and your future spouse’s life and something that you will remember forever even if it’s not perfect, but hopefully these tips help. Remember, you don’t have to do all the work alone and we at Spruce Mountain would absolutely love to help! Good luck and we can’t wait to see your announcement come across our feeds and we would love for you to consider having your wedding at Spruce Mountain Ranch!
Photos by From The Hip Photography